Pornography effects on relationships and sexuality.

Pornography has become  strong  mainstream sexual activity in the current and the western society especially among the young teenagers and young adults.

With the rise of social media and use of internet the world has become a global village where young people have sexually explicit much traffic on the internet watching obscene stuffs from the internet through their personal devices such as phones and laptops.

Henceforth with the high rise of internet site young adults have mistaken fantasy from reality however there are efforts to  condemning the use of internet and offering advice for overcoming this “porn addiction”.

Pornography has  greatly effected negatively on sexuality and relationships in our daily lives hence has devastated our love life. Since there is no doubt that those who watch pornography not only suffer from psychological problems but also have relations problems others have also found their ways to integrate their porn using them in their daily lives as healthy component of their sexuality.

From research in an article written by Gary Gilles is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in private practice for over 20 years, quotes that with the release of the new latest movie entitled “Fifty shades of Grey”which has been viewed by millions of young adults and generations is a clear indication that pornography has become part of our daily lives however people who don’t value real beings thus we live in a world of fantasy.

For instance people who are most prone to use of pornography usually have love deficits which occurs in their lives and relationships in which for this case they don’t feel affection or attraction anymore and are usually exposed porn and  at some point they might see more drawn to substitute for the real relationship that can’t be nurtured since their minds have been projected to the obscene stuffs from the internet .

 

We should know that there’s need to stick to our cultures and know how important revisiting important issues about sexual matters that doesn’t get talked about it’s socially on how to improve about relationships.

Before watching pornography from the social sites here are some key things to consider;

Pornography create unrealistic expectations about two people and sexual behaviour since it weakens commitment in marriages and relationships especially on what a normal body looks like and what sexual behavior is always really about.

For instance a healthy sexual  relationship is usually meant to be a satisfying expression of each partner’s love for each other henceforth pornography is all about self gratification and often involves dominating or mistreating other person’s interest sexually and love wise.

We should also learn that healthy relationships are usually built on trust, for one  to be intimate with the one whom  they are in love with it’s good to make yourself vulnerable as trust is the assurance that your partner will respect your vulnerability and increase your emotional intimacy and stability that may lead to a long-lasting relationship.

Watching obscene stuff from the internet really destroys emotional intimacy between two people because love is not always about sexual intimacy or in a relationship pornography films ,pictures or messages which are seen through the media might make somebody believe that sex is the prime binding agent in a relationship but however that’s wrong.

While in a relationship we should learn to be valued ,loved, cherished cared for listened to appreciated and valuing one another since when emotional intimacy is developed between two people there comes satisfaction hence wont be need to be cheated on outside that relationship.

 

Research also indicates that porn is really  and it’s a little harmless fantasy but the problems comes in that the high number of people viewing ,usually makes consumers things more critical of their partners and makes them less satisfied with their sexual lives in their relationships. Basically pornography makes individuals view themselves different  from their friends, family, and any other people around them it’s also change the way people view their hobbies talents and passions for life.

Generally pornography  has become the new slicker version of love which has become easy to access ,fastest cheap. However porn addicts finds it hard finding the life partner’s but no efforts, for this case what they see online usually contaminates their minds hence they become breathless and perpetually aroused sexually and for some cases they get wild with the ecstatic orgasms that look so real and for instance if this point partner ever fails they will get mistreated he’s destroying relationships and sexuality.